Check the grade markings on the bolt heads (8.8, 10.9), that will determine the proper tq.
Typical tq for 12mm diameter bolt is; 8.8 - 60ftlbs, 10.9 - 85ftlbs, and 12.9 -95flbs.
As for washers, it depends on if the nuts are self locking are not.
Look at the inner diameter of the nut, if it is not perfectly round (meaning one edge of the circle is deformed) or has some type of insert and it can not be spun past the first couple of threads easily by hand then use a flat washer.
If the inner diameter is completely round and the nut spins on the bolt easily, use a lock washer.
Mark